Post by Quorthon on Jan 13, 2006 12:50:30 GMT -5
Hey everyone. This is a letter Ive written that I'm planning on sending to my local media outlets and politicians telling them I'm fed up with their ignorance toward families and children. You don't have to read it if you don't want to, and you don't have to say anything. I just would like some opinions on it, what should be included, shouldn't. Or thoughts on what might be the most successful way to get it all published. Clearly, the government will not change on it's own. My life is practically destroyed and my son's could be in jeapordy if the system doesn't change.
Lend me your opinions if you please, your thoughts. And if you know anyone screwed by similar unfair government practices, feel free to give them a copy of the letter. They can modify it and send it to their own media moguls. I don't care what the odds are against me on all this. I'll never get anywhere without trying.
Thanks.
Here it is (I'm planning on addressing it as an open letter against all politicians, and to all harmed by the ignorance of the system.):
I have to say, I really don’t understand the point of our government. Every politician preaches and howls about how they’re “for families” and how they “believe in the traditional family.” Banter like this that, in reality, turn into flat-out lies once they’re elected.
What do I mean, exactly?
Well, for one, we live under a government that actively destroys families, bankrupts fathers, harms children, but supports with the greatest zeal, all single mothers—regardless of whether or not they are good parents. This is hardly the majority of voters—at least, for the sake of America, one would hope that the majority of voters aren’t single mothers. This country’s in a lot worse shape than what’s even remotely imaginable if that’s the majority. But, I’m pretty sure the majority of the voting public aren’t made up of single mothers. But the politicians support them anyway. (Some single mothers, I’m sure, are good people. But that’s not the point of this letter.) Because listening to the minority is really the point of Democracy, …isn’t it?
I’m sure that if you’re still with me on this, you’re wondering about my point. Well, I for one, am a victim of this government. I have a child born out of wedlock. I am, in the eyes of the law, a single father (despite being married, albeit to a woman that isn’t my little boy’s mother), and therefore, apparently, an enemy of everyone. You see, my son was born from a woman with mental disorders and emotional problems. Sure, I should’ve been more responsible at the time, but I wasn’t and now I have a wonderful little boy—whom I love more than anything or anyone in this deceitful country, or the chaotic world in which it resides.
I was present for my boy’s birth (and was the first person to bathe him and put a diaper on him), and signed on the dotted line that, yes indeed, I am this boy’s Dad. And what does our lovely government do in this situation? Why, completely ignore the rights of the father and grant sole custody to the mother. You know, if our asinine government actually cared about the well-being of our children, in a case such as mine, they’d grant joint custody, or at the very least grant the parents the benefit of the doubt as to which should have sole custody—and look at them equally.
But our politicians are all liars and pricks. And they have a deep-seated resentment for families and fathers for, apparently, no reason. So I was ignored, and custody was granted to my boy’s mother, who, mind you, chain-smoked while pregnant with him.
So as a father, to have any rights at all, I have to spend countless dollars to try to get custody of him. Apparently, we fathers have to prove our love. But alas, I don’t have any money. All thanks to Uncle Sam the Penny-Snatcher.
I pay child support, and despite the fact that my boy’s mother “allows” him to see me, I pay as if I never see him. And because I didn’t pay right away, they tacked on endless “back child support.” Literally, 45% of my income is lost to child support. What’s that you say? Child support is supposed to be 25%? Well, I’m here to tell you that that, my friends, is a flat-out lie. Apparently, perjury is legal—when the government is doing it. Well, bankrupting me, and other fathers, must be what politicians believe makes a family. Rich single mother, emotionally harmed child, bankrupt single father. Sounds like a real festival of family-based love, doesn’t it? So, anyway, there goes all my money that could’ve been used on a lawyer (no doubt every bit as crooked as the system I’m trying to fight) to get some rights for my son and myself.
Again, I know I should’ve been more responsible. But wait, if this baby is all my fault, then why is custody so friggin’ hard for me to obtain? Since, apparently, this child is entirely my creation alone, and I just cruelly planted him in some woman, chosen to be my victim, shouldn’t it be easier for me to obtain custody when I want it? Apparently not! Because while she lied to me and said she couldn’t get pregnant, and was every bit as irresponsible as me, still, this baby is my fault—and she’s a victim of my insidious plan to plant children in unsuspecting women. Or so the government believes.
Of course, this hell extends further than just what I’ve mentioned here. Not only do I pay an arm and a leg in child support, but the government feels that their intrusion into a family’s personal situation requires only so much responsibility. For instance, they take money away from the father, and give it to the single mother—then promptly turn their back on the situation. Somehow, I think the government stopping halfway on this is pretty moronic. If they stopped halfway during WWII, the Nazis would likely control America to this day. Apparently, families aren’t that important. So how many people out there think that child support money should be spent on gambling? Or cigarettes? But the government doesn’t monitor that, so it can be spent on whatever vices the mother feels she needs at the time. Seems to me it should be spent on the, oh, say, child. Oh, but that makes sense. And is the right thing to do. So of course, our politicians are too stupid to follow that line of thinking.
But child support is a crooked system anyway. It’s been a crooked system since it’s inception. It’s like Communism, but with nothing good coming from it. Come to think of it—it’s exactly like Communism. Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s good for a single parent to help the one with custody when the government is too stupid to actually examine or grant custody with a degree of intelligence. I know my child support will one day be needed for medication to prevent my son’s mother from losing herself to her mental disorders when being Bi-Polar takes full control. I’m sure that benefits him, right? But if help, in the form of money, it going to happen—maybe, just maybe, the politicians should pull their fingers out of their ears and actually listen to what’s wrong with this system. Because one of these days, they need to wake up smell the corruption. Personally, I think if the politicians believe it’s the responsibility of the government to transfer money from one parent to the other, that maybe they should do some real checking to make sure that one of the parents still has an income on which they can live! Or for that matter, make sure that at least 70-85% of that money is actually spent on things related directly to the child. Trust me, it doesn’t feel good to know that I have had to live off my wife because the government worked so hard to simply screw me over. It’s been hard on my marriage, and extremely nerve-racking and stressful. It’s hard to be happy these days.
But then again, supporting minority groups like single mothers is the way to garner more votes… right?
I live in Minnesota, and am well aware of the law passed last year, which won’t go into effect until next year at the soonest. That law which modifies only one small part of the child support system—of looking at the income of both parents, not just the poor schmuck without custody. A note to the ignorant politicians: Too little, too late. The damage is already done. Your failure continues unabated.
So are we starting to see how the government, not only doesn’t care about families, but actually works to destroy them? Oh God, I hope so. Because this affects everybody. Sure, I’m some guy you don’t know. But this could be the dilemma of your brother, your father, your friend… your son. I know I don’t want my little boy growing up in a system that’s increasingly hostel towards him because he’s a white male (that’s another problem altogether, but this is more important). What if he has a child out of wedlock? Will he have to go through the same hell as me? What will it take for the repugnant, unthinking, unfeeling, dimwitted, moronic, self-absorbed, family-hating politicians to finally realize that, in reality, their policies about family are doing far more harm than good?
Seems to me, it’s been shown that a growing boy needs his father around. So why does the government still ignore this fact? Why make is so hard for a father… to be a father? It’s scary to know just how many serial killers in this country, who ended up murdering women, also grew up without fathers… Ted Bundy is just the first that comes to mind.
I always wondered, long before, what makes a father kidnap his own kids. What makes them suicidal or just depressed or deadbeats. I realize now, that it’s not just the poor character of the person—that reasoning can only cover some, or a few of the cases. No, now I realize, it’s the pain the father lives with each and every day: He has no rights, the government doesn’t care about him or his children, and they will take everything from him to punish him for having a child. It doesn’t matter how much love he has for his kids, this is more pressure than anyone should ever go through. Just because I will walk barefoot through hell for my son, doesn’t mean the government has to offer me up my own personal hell in which to wallow. This is more pain than anyone should feel. Fathers are repeatedly pushed to the edge, I’ve been pushed nearly that far. I shake with worry at times, I’m nervous and scared for my son. I think about him constantly and fight off tears fearing there’s nothing I can do for him. The rights of many fathers, their lives, their freedom—many have had it all taken away. Punished for having a child. We reward single mothers as though their being irresponsible and having a child out of wedlock is equivalent to discovering the cure for cancer. But fathers are punished for the very same thing, as though we planned the Third Riech’s “Final Solution.”
And through it all, lives are destroyed and children endure the consequences. Suffer the children. Maybe that’s the motto that should adorn our money. Seems to me, that’s what politicians are saying when they make such cruel, half-assed laws such as those we have governing our family court system to this day.
So, what’s to be done? Well, I for one, am making a stand. “What can one person do?” you ask? All I want to do now is plant the seed of change. My life is almost totally destroyed by our government’s ignorance and stupidity—but it’s not too late to save our children—our sons, and our other young fathers from this pain. Somewhere, a stand has to be made against this oppression and hatred.
For me, I will vote against each and every incumbent politician from this point on—until the system is changed to one that is fair. Regardless of party affiliation. If changes weren’t made, they obviously didn’t care enough about families. And I want them out of office, and I will kick them out.
I encourage each and every father to do the same. Send them a message, send them this letter telling them you’re kicking them out if they don’t shape up if you want. Modify it if you like. Women don’t forget, this affects you too—vote them out to save your children, your brothers, your fathers, and your sons.
And if change doesn’t happen, then you can rest easy. The experiment of Democracy will have failed. And this country is not worth the time of our fathers or our families. And it is no longer worth fighting for.
There you have it. All politicians—are out. You politicians are all failures when it comes to your empathy with the American family. And I was not the first to be screwed by your indifference and ignorance. But I will be first to work to send you ignorant failures packing. I suggest, and hope, that if anyone reading this also cares about their respective families—you do the same. I ask for you to overlook party affiliation, since all political parties have thus far failed families. Nothing is more important to this country than it’s foundation—and that is, and always has been, built on our children and families. Nothing else is remotely as important.
Lend me your opinions if you please, your thoughts. And if you know anyone screwed by similar unfair government practices, feel free to give them a copy of the letter. They can modify it and send it to their own media moguls. I don't care what the odds are against me on all this. I'll never get anywhere without trying.
Thanks.
Here it is (I'm planning on addressing it as an open letter against all politicians, and to all harmed by the ignorance of the system.):
I have to say, I really don’t understand the point of our government. Every politician preaches and howls about how they’re “for families” and how they “believe in the traditional family.” Banter like this that, in reality, turn into flat-out lies once they’re elected.
What do I mean, exactly?
Well, for one, we live under a government that actively destroys families, bankrupts fathers, harms children, but supports with the greatest zeal, all single mothers—regardless of whether or not they are good parents. This is hardly the majority of voters—at least, for the sake of America, one would hope that the majority of voters aren’t single mothers. This country’s in a lot worse shape than what’s even remotely imaginable if that’s the majority. But, I’m pretty sure the majority of the voting public aren’t made up of single mothers. But the politicians support them anyway. (Some single mothers, I’m sure, are good people. But that’s not the point of this letter.) Because listening to the minority is really the point of Democracy, …isn’t it?
I’m sure that if you’re still with me on this, you’re wondering about my point. Well, I for one, am a victim of this government. I have a child born out of wedlock. I am, in the eyes of the law, a single father (despite being married, albeit to a woman that isn’t my little boy’s mother), and therefore, apparently, an enemy of everyone. You see, my son was born from a woman with mental disorders and emotional problems. Sure, I should’ve been more responsible at the time, but I wasn’t and now I have a wonderful little boy—whom I love more than anything or anyone in this deceitful country, or the chaotic world in which it resides.
I was present for my boy’s birth (and was the first person to bathe him and put a diaper on him), and signed on the dotted line that, yes indeed, I am this boy’s Dad. And what does our lovely government do in this situation? Why, completely ignore the rights of the father and grant sole custody to the mother. You know, if our asinine government actually cared about the well-being of our children, in a case such as mine, they’d grant joint custody, or at the very least grant the parents the benefit of the doubt as to which should have sole custody—and look at them equally.
But our politicians are all liars and pricks. And they have a deep-seated resentment for families and fathers for, apparently, no reason. So I was ignored, and custody was granted to my boy’s mother, who, mind you, chain-smoked while pregnant with him.
So as a father, to have any rights at all, I have to spend countless dollars to try to get custody of him. Apparently, we fathers have to prove our love. But alas, I don’t have any money. All thanks to Uncle Sam the Penny-Snatcher.
I pay child support, and despite the fact that my boy’s mother “allows” him to see me, I pay as if I never see him. And because I didn’t pay right away, they tacked on endless “back child support.” Literally, 45% of my income is lost to child support. What’s that you say? Child support is supposed to be 25%? Well, I’m here to tell you that that, my friends, is a flat-out lie. Apparently, perjury is legal—when the government is doing it. Well, bankrupting me, and other fathers, must be what politicians believe makes a family. Rich single mother, emotionally harmed child, bankrupt single father. Sounds like a real festival of family-based love, doesn’t it? So, anyway, there goes all my money that could’ve been used on a lawyer (no doubt every bit as crooked as the system I’m trying to fight) to get some rights for my son and myself.
Again, I know I should’ve been more responsible. But wait, if this baby is all my fault, then why is custody so friggin’ hard for me to obtain? Since, apparently, this child is entirely my creation alone, and I just cruelly planted him in some woman, chosen to be my victim, shouldn’t it be easier for me to obtain custody when I want it? Apparently not! Because while she lied to me and said she couldn’t get pregnant, and was every bit as irresponsible as me, still, this baby is my fault—and she’s a victim of my insidious plan to plant children in unsuspecting women. Or so the government believes.
Of course, this hell extends further than just what I’ve mentioned here. Not only do I pay an arm and a leg in child support, but the government feels that their intrusion into a family’s personal situation requires only so much responsibility. For instance, they take money away from the father, and give it to the single mother—then promptly turn their back on the situation. Somehow, I think the government stopping halfway on this is pretty moronic. If they stopped halfway during WWII, the Nazis would likely control America to this day. Apparently, families aren’t that important. So how many people out there think that child support money should be spent on gambling? Or cigarettes? But the government doesn’t monitor that, so it can be spent on whatever vices the mother feels she needs at the time. Seems to me it should be spent on the, oh, say, child. Oh, but that makes sense. And is the right thing to do. So of course, our politicians are too stupid to follow that line of thinking.
But child support is a crooked system anyway. It’s been a crooked system since it’s inception. It’s like Communism, but with nothing good coming from it. Come to think of it—it’s exactly like Communism. Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s good for a single parent to help the one with custody when the government is too stupid to actually examine or grant custody with a degree of intelligence. I know my child support will one day be needed for medication to prevent my son’s mother from losing herself to her mental disorders when being Bi-Polar takes full control. I’m sure that benefits him, right? But if help, in the form of money, it going to happen—maybe, just maybe, the politicians should pull their fingers out of their ears and actually listen to what’s wrong with this system. Because one of these days, they need to wake up smell the corruption. Personally, I think if the politicians believe it’s the responsibility of the government to transfer money from one parent to the other, that maybe they should do some real checking to make sure that one of the parents still has an income on which they can live! Or for that matter, make sure that at least 70-85% of that money is actually spent on things related directly to the child. Trust me, it doesn’t feel good to know that I have had to live off my wife because the government worked so hard to simply screw me over. It’s been hard on my marriage, and extremely nerve-racking and stressful. It’s hard to be happy these days.
But then again, supporting minority groups like single mothers is the way to garner more votes… right?
I live in Minnesota, and am well aware of the law passed last year, which won’t go into effect until next year at the soonest. That law which modifies only one small part of the child support system—of looking at the income of both parents, not just the poor schmuck without custody. A note to the ignorant politicians: Too little, too late. The damage is already done. Your failure continues unabated.
So are we starting to see how the government, not only doesn’t care about families, but actually works to destroy them? Oh God, I hope so. Because this affects everybody. Sure, I’m some guy you don’t know. But this could be the dilemma of your brother, your father, your friend… your son. I know I don’t want my little boy growing up in a system that’s increasingly hostel towards him because he’s a white male (that’s another problem altogether, but this is more important). What if he has a child out of wedlock? Will he have to go through the same hell as me? What will it take for the repugnant, unthinking, unfeeling, dimwitted, moronic, self-absorbed, family-hating politicians to finally realize that, in reality, their policies about family are doing far more harm than good?
Seems to me, it’s been shown that a growing boy needs his father around. So why does the government still ignore this fact? Why make is so hard for a father… to be a father? It’s scary to know just how many serial killers in this country, who ended up murdering women, also grew up without fathers… Ted Bundy is just the first that comes to mind.
I always wondered, long before, what makes a father kidnap his own kids. What makes them suicidal or just depressed or deadbeats. I realize now, that it’s not just the poor character of the person—that reasoning can only cover some, or a few of the cases. No, now I realize, it’s the pain the father lives with each and every day: He has no rights, the government doesn’t care about him or his children, and they will take everything from him to punish him for having a child. It doesn’t matter how much love he has for his kids, this is more pressure than anyone should ever go through. Just because I will walk barefoot through hell for my son, doesn’t mean the government has to offer me up my own personal hell in which to wallow. This is more pain than anyone should feel. Fathers are repeatedly pushed to the edge, I’ve been pushed nearly that far. I shake with worry at times, I’m nervous and scared for my son. I think about him constantly and fight off tears fearing there’s nothing I can do for him. The rights of many fathers, their lives, their freedom—many have had it all taken away. Punished for having a child. We reward single mothers as though their being irresponsible and having a child out of wedlock is equivalent to discovering the cure for cancer. But fathers are punished for the very same thing, as though we planned the Third Riech’s “Final Solution.”
And through it all, lives are destroyed and children endure the consequences. Suffer the children. Maybe that’s the motto that should adorn our money. Seems to me, that’s what politicians are saying when they make such cruel, half-assed laws such as those we have governing our family court system to this day.
So, what’s to be done? Well, I for one, am making a stand. “What can one person do?” you ask? All I want to do now is plant the seed of change. My life is almost totally destroyed by our government’s ignorance and stupidity—but it’s not too late to save our children—our sons, and our other young fathers from this pain. Somewhere, a stand has to be made against this oppression and hatred.
For me, I will vote against each and every incumbent politician from this point on—until the system is changed to one that is fair. Regardless of party affiliation. If changes weren’t made, they obviously didn’t care enough about families. And I want them out of office, and I will kick them out.
I encourage each and every father to do the same. Send them a message, send them this letter telling them you’re kicking them out if they don’t shape up if you want. Modify it if you like. Women don’t forget, this affects you too—vote them out to save your children, your brothers, your fathers, and your sons.
And if change doesn’t happen, then you can rest easy. The experiment of Democracy will have failed. And this country is not worth the time of our fathers or our families. And it is no longer worth fighting for.
There you have it. All politicians—are out. You politicians are all failures when it comes to your empathy with the American family. And I was not the first to be screwed by your indifference and ignorance. But I will be first to work to send you ignorant failures packing. I suggest, and hope, that if anyone reading this also cares about their respective families—you do the same. I ask for you to overlook party affiliation, since all political parties have thus far failed families. Nothing is more important to this country than it’s foundation—and that is, and always has been, built on our children and families. Nothing else is remotely as important.
